Dick's Repression

In this post I would like to review a 'revolutionary' blog, which some of you may be familar with.

Dick's Adventures
dickchan.blogspot.com
[Caution: contains material which may offend certain individuals]

This infamous blog in question has been the subject of many scathing comments and it is not hard to see why. Even browsing through the content cursorily, you would perhaps come to some conclusions:

This guy is sick.
This guy is a pervert
This guy is a voyeur (He is)
This guy is desperate
(bla bla)

However, judging by the hit counter below, it is evident that he does have an audience, quite a sizable one at that. Granted there are people who encountered the site through chance and were turned off by its content, never to return again forever and ever. However, it is certain that there are a number who enjoy his site. He clearly has a returning audience. With his style of writing, it is probably only decipherable by Singaporeans (and only some, at that). Perhaps his audience are limited to a specific demographic of 'sickos' and 'perverts' or rather, hormonal adolscents? While I acknowledge that not all Singaporeans are like that, the evidential success of such a site with a predominantly Singaporean audience surely points towards evidence that there is a deeply supressed voyeuristic and exhibitionistic tendencies in a proportion of Singaporeans (both male AND female).

He is a pioneer in the sense that he brings his voyeuristic tendencies and fantasies to the blogosphere in a 'Singaporean' context. (There are other blogs, especially extraterritorially, which offer sexual content but it is doubtful if there is similar content to that of dickchan.blogspot.com, ie, overlying theme of voyeurism.)

No doubt, the author is probably a hormonal teenager ravaged with testosterone, and using a blog as an outlet to express his fantasies. Sexual fantasies are part and parcel of a human's psyche, and there is nothing wrongwith having sexual thoughts, contrary to what authorities/prudes may say. However, the characteristic of the sexual fantasies (voyeuristic and exhibitionistic) is the worrying aspect. It is one thing to dream of having a sexual relationship with a beautiful girl. It is a totally different matter, when the dream is to sneak a peek at a beautiful girl's undergarments. It is evidence of a repressed mind, one that is probably conjured up in a repressive environment. Sex has become so taboo that in their minds, people are even afraid of fantasising about conventional sex. Sex has become so forbidden, so elusive that the result is there lustful desires of sex results in implications of 'guilt'. As such, 'scared' with the 'real thing', the mind is instead twisted into accepting sneak peeks at undergarments to be associative with sex. 'Cheap thrills' are gained from 'inadvertently exposed' undergarments. Of course, the site offers textual pornography and hence the normal problems which pornography can create when indulged in applies (eg difficulty to relate to opposite sex, to form relationships, to differentiate reality from fantasy).

[Query: Is peeking at a skirt really 'more enjoyable' than a sexual encounter, or a social relationship??]

But is it all just guys who are the disgusting repressed souls who 'use' the site to indulge in their own fantasies? Probably predominantly, but are there some girls who actually 'enjoy' the site too? There is a psychological aspect, (i forgot the specific term for it), that actually deals with behavioural patterns between two parties, how they subconciously react to each other, becoming accustomed to the opposite party's reaction and role-playing(reacting) in such a way as to 'fit' the relationship between them). The role-playing between the sexes is one that is most celebrated in common culture. If this is so, and if a sizable number of Singaporean guys have such a mentality, the result is that the only way that girls can 'appeal' to these deviants are to actually dress in such a way as to facilitate the deviants fantasies/mentalities. These girls will dress up provocatively, such as wearing hipster jeans and squatting to show their thongs, or wearing very short skirts and/or low cut blouses, and of course, dressing like 'kawaii' Japanese schoolgirls since Japanese 'underground' culture , which is popular with Singaporean guys, is one of which voyeurism plays a large part. Of course, the girls will deny wanting male attention, especially sneaky attempts to look at their undergarments, saying they have a right to wear what they want, and that males should not 'cross the border'. True, and fair enough. On the male's side of the coin, the thrill is the 'forbidden fruit' of the exposed flesh and/or undergarments; on the female's side, wearing revealing clothing and then coyly and trying to prevent 'unintentional' exposure is the thrill (or alternatively complaining about such behaviour). Therefore, the denial in itself is the higher state of consciousness overriding the more primal subconciousness of the female. In other words, when these females deny that they dress up (or down) for want of attention, but rather because of their own 'personal preference', it is the higher reasoning power overriding and deluding the baser instinct, because in their higher reasoning this is 'cheap' behaviour which they do not condone, and that their own 'choice' justifies their choice of clothing, when in actual fact they are just subconciously fulfilling the social role-play.

[NB: I know I am going to be 'killed' for the above paragraph, but in mitigation please note that this does NOT apply to all girls, only those attuned to a 'DickChan' mindset, and then only maybe.]

Both sides are drawn into this psychological role-playing, unfortunately perhaps not the most healthy one.

No doubt, every country has its fair share of sexual deviants, and indeed weirder and perhaps more disturbing sexual fetishes. However, Singapore is not as morally upright as the State-controlled media would like to suggest, and this is just one minor example used to illustrate that there is a possibility that a significant proportion of Singaporeans are actually sexually repressed.

Perhaps, a way to alleviate this problem would be to relieve the age old taboos about sex, so that sex is no longer kept under a repressed facade. Primary and Secondary school 'sex education' is a step in the right direction but it is by no means a complete remedy. What needs to be done is to actually portray sex as a healthy and natural thing between two individuals, even if its for pleasure rather than procreation. What needs to be done is not to automatically associate anything sexual in nature as 'sin' and consequently banned. One of the benefits of being a sentient being is the bonus of having sex for pleasure, unlike animals, who only have sex to breed offspring. As much as powers-that-be treat us as baby factories (chiding us for being unproductive ones, at that), we must also be responsible to OURSELVES before we can be responsible citizens. And that means not repressing ourselves from pleasurable activities if appropriate. Maybe rather than using fear and guilt by droning into us the myriad dangers such as STDs and social problems (caused by unwanted childs), a positive approach, one which highlights the dangers and encourages the steps to have responsible, enjoyable sex, would be ultimately more healthy, AND beneficial for all parties involved, since sexually liberated souls enjoy better mental health, and the government literally reaps the increased fruit of labours of mums-to-be, something they have been pathetically attempting.

*I am not encouraging illicit, casual sex per se. I am encouraging being more broad-minded towards sex, one where sex is not a taboo subject, one which can be discussed without silly giggling or reference to crude anatomical jokes. Where sex is a normal part and parcel of our lives.